There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like. In business, people negotiate to win. They negotiate to get what they want. Maybe you’re too used to that. Love is different. Love is when you are as concerned about someone else’s situation as you are about your own.
It’s natural to die. The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature.
Do the kind of things that come from the heart, When you do, you won't be dissatisfied, you won't be envious, you won't be longing for somebody else's things. On the contrary, you'll be overhelmed with what comes back
The best way to deal with that is to live in a fully conscious, compassionate, loving way. Don't wait until you're on your deathbed to recognize that this is the only way to live.
When you look at it that way, you can see how absurd it is that we individualize ourselves with our fences and hoarded possessions.
Grieve and mourn for yourself not once or twice, but again and again.
We have a sense that we should be like the mythical cowboy... able to take on and conquer anything and live in the world without the need for other people.
What tipped the scales was that psychology involved working with rats.
It's not too late to develop new friendships or reconnect with people.
After you have wept and grieved for your physical losses, cherish the functions and the life you have left.
So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things.
